I just realised that Friendster has shut down which also means that I have also lost most of my blog entries I put up there. I even tried google and yahoo cached, but to no avail.. Sigh~~ You see, my BIL did say this once to me" K Amelia ada save tak blog ni. If server online off semua post K Amelia hilang.". I said 'most' because I did copy paste some entries after hearing Imi saying that. Aiya~~ Takpe laa.. nak buat macam mana.. Sigh~~
Saturday, November 26, 2011
Who watched Tanyalah Ustaz yesterday??? What would be more interesting if you have actually watched it together with your spouse. :)
For those who missed out since some would have to leave home for work before 8am, the topic was on 'Suburkan Mahabbah (kasih sayang, cinta and etc)' between husband and wife. Probably if you've missed it and want to watch it, I think there should be the tv archive for all of the Tanyalah Ustaz episodes.
I couldn't agree more when the Ustaz described the responsibilities of the two parties. There was one story which the Ustaz shares which I found pretty 'amazing'. It was the first time I ever to hear it. Memanglah nampak gayanya I should read more books. Anyway, the story was about a man who couldn't bear any longer the lecturing of his wife. So one day, he decided to meet Umar to get an advice. As we all know, Umar was well known for being 'fierce'. When the man reached Umar's house, he saw Umar was being lectured by his (Umar's) wife. Seeing this, the man decided to leave. As he was about to leave, Umar called out for him and asked the reason he came. The man explained to Umar of his intentions of getting advice on how to stop his wife from lecturing. Hearing this, Umar answered (allow me to write of what I remember in Malay as the Ustaz had expressed in the show ye.. hehe);
"apa salahnya mendengar apa yang mereka ingin katakan. Dialah yang telah menjaga makan minumku, tempat tinggalku, pakaianku, mengandung dan menjaga anak-anakku.."
How sweet of Umar is that???!! :D
I have actually tried to search the full version of this hadith but have not found it. If I am not mistaken, the Ustaz mentioned it was reported by Abu Dawud. I'll include it in this post later when I bumped into the hadith insyaAllah.
In the end, the Ustaz concluded the topic in three main points;
- Be a good listener
- Learn to appreciate
- Praise your partner
It is always nice to be reminded on this matter every now and then kan? Especially on the lecturing part :P HohoHOHOHohohOHOHOHoho :P
Monday, November 21, 2011
Is that time again! Happy birthday to me! :) Thank you all for all the Doa and birthday wishes! :D
As usual, I have always used this time of the year to ponder on what I've done so far... all the good, the bad and ugly... :P
Since this would be my last birthday entry before I will say bye bye to number '2' and hello to number '3' (my.. my.. my.. I am THAT old), I should make it somewhat unforgettable. Chewah! HohOoHOhohoHO...
Many have happened over the past one year. From having Ibrahim to moving to our own place to having my first batch of students and to finally getting the PhD. Those were some of the UP moments. There is one other which ultimately the highlight of my year.
What was it? Unfortunately I couldn't share the story with all of you. But what I could do is to share the lessons I've learnt from it.
As Allah has promised in His Holy Book in Surah Al-Baqarah verse 286;
Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned...
I first heard of the sad news in 2004. I was only a few weeks after coming back from the UK for good when I received that grieving call. It was heartbreaking and I must say that I too was shattered as much as the people involved... especially when it happened to the people close and dear to you. During that hard times, I had seen how fragile human can be without His guidance. At the verge of hardship, one's heart could easily waver and break. But with His help and blessing, the selected few gain strength and continue to be at peace. What took place also shows me how greed and lust could take everything that is good and destroy happiness. It also opens my eyes on how much we should always put Allah's love above all. Never ever ever ever on anything else.
Alhamdulillah, mid this year, I celebrated the good news. They have been hopeful and waited 8 years for the great news to come. I must say that I witnessed the truth in Allah's words when He said;
And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me - indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] and believe in Me that they may be [rightly] guided. - (Al-Quran 2:186)
He reiterate the above point LOUD and CLEAR again in Surah Ghafir verse 60 ;
And your Lord says, "Call upon Me; I will respond to you. ..."
for we are only human and without His help we human could only do so little. And how do we ask for help? Yup, by continuously making Doa. He might not answer your prayer immediately, but insyaAllah in time, it will surely come. Have faith. ;)
Last but no least, I also learnt that no matter what happen to us, be it good or bad, it is from Allah for a reason. Not to weaken us but to strengthen us. And yes, to never ever ever ever bersangka-buruk to Him since He will be what we expect of Him. If you think good of Him, that's how He'll be and vice versa.
I guess, this will do laa kan. Hehehe.. Thank you again for all your lovely wishes and Doa! XOXO~
Ya Allah, kami bersyukur atas segala nikmat dan kurniaan yang Engkau telah berikan. Kau tetapkanlah hati-hati kami ini pada jalan yang lurus. Matikanlah kami ketika mana kami berada dalam sebaik-baik Iman ya Allah. Sesungguhnya ibadah kami, hidup kami, mati kami hanya kerana-Mu ya Allah. Amin amin amin Ya Rabb alamin...